There are a lot of interpretations of what coaching is and isn’t these days. It has become fashionable to say one is a coach even when most people have difficulty saying exactly what a coach is. I find an analogy with nursing helpful. Any person can support someone to return to health, which would be considered the act of nursing, or

and that's a good thing. This week I lived through a personal experience that exemplifies to me how the ontological interpretation of emotions is useful for understanding and navigating life. The event that put things in motion was that an organizational client I have been working with a lot this year found 2 errors in the invoices I submitted. Physically I

and we never know where we'll end up. One of the great things about true conversations is that we end up learning things and exploring places we had no idea existed before. Sometimes they change the way we think and sometimes they reinforce it but somehow we see the world differently. This week I am in Missouri where my father’s family originated

Recently this email arrived from a former student and coach: "Thanks so much for your email. I cried when I read it but, this time, the crying was good – felt nourishing. The emotion of 'dignity' feels very right. I was trying to get to “hope” because I thought that that would be the emotion that would serve me, but couldn't. So, I

I’ve always thought about awareness as something a bit mystical and difficult to pin down. It seemed like a good idea but I had put it into the “either you have it or you don’t” column. I’d come to think that either people “were" or "were not” aware. Very black and white. That all change in a workshop I just

Looking back over the past 60 years of my life I can see that I have had several distinct relationships with my emotions and various strategies for how to co-exist with them. If it sounds like I am referring to them as something separate from “me” that is because for many years I saw them that way. There have been periods

We all know that emotions are not always easy to pin down. Somehow they seem a little slippery and, darn them, always changing. It is a big enough challenge sometimes just to name the emotion we are feeling precise. To make things even more interesting we not only have emotions but we have emotions about those emotions. We may feel embarrassed

Last week I wrote that we have emotions about our emotions. This week is a bit similar but in a different direction. We humans are “assessment machines”. It seems we cannot stop interpreting, developing opinions or creating beliefs about ourselves and the world around us. All of those are judgments or assessments and they constitute the story we live. “Story” in

Think for a moment what has pushed you off balance recently. A television news story? Reading about the ongoing impact of climate change? A difficulty your child is facing at his school? From one perspective, these stories about these events are simply facts, but at the same time, they had a profound impact on you emotionally. They pushed you, not

In a world that doesn't seem to every stop challenging us, emotional agility is increasingly talked about as an essential quality for leaders. It sounds nice, but what exactly is agility, where does it come from, and how does one develop it? Emotional agility is “the capability to recognize your current emotional state and fluidly adjust it to produce optimal results." Already